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I live like an animal, and in Japan we have love hotels if I want to bring a bird back somewhere. Usually I'm drunk too, and I can't drive, so I'm not going back home. I wash my bed sheets..sometimes. It's hilarious, everyone wears surgical masks all the time here and I'm the only one who wasn't sick at all in the office. Whenever I feel my throat is itching, I have a shot of whisky and go to bed early. Problem solved. If I drop something on the floor, I pick it up and eat it. I drink unfiltered water, I don't wash my hands ever cept when I go to the bathroom and don't always take my multi-vitamin despite having exactly 0 vegetables in my diet. Not trying to be a dick, just saying people worry a little too much. I also don't believe some ladies don't rub one out in the shower while thinking about ibobland08 with the shape he has, no homo. Unless you don't ever go out where women are, I can almost guarantee you are generating interest, just gotta bank on it.
I live like an animal, and in Japan we have love hotels if I want to bring a bird back somewhere. Usually I'm drunk too, and I can't drive, so I'm not going back home. I wash my bed sheets..sometimes. It's hilarious, everyone wears surgical masks all the time here and I'm the only one who wasn't sick at all in the office. Whenever I feel my throat is itching, I have a shot of whisky and go to bed early. Problem solved. If I drop something on the floor, I pick it up and eat it. I drink unfiltered water, I don't wash my hands ever cept when I go to the bathroom and don't always take my multi-vitamin despite having exactly 0 vegetables in my diet. Not trying to be a dick, just saying people worry a little too much. I also don't believe some ladies don't rub one out in the shower while thinking about ibobland08 with the shape he has, no homo. Unless you don't ever go out where women are, I can almost guarantee you are generating interest, just gotta bank on it.
Exactly, attraction is not a choice. Difference may be that you seem like you don't have trouble meeting women. I would almost guarantee that for 70% of the population that is not the case. I don't think you can underestimate the power of low self-esteem. Not saying ibob has that problem but I wouldn't presume to know what demons run through people's minds in those situations - I can however give him some resources to make meeting women fun again 🙂
Russi, books with titles like that make my blood boil. I think it's really important for women to read them to realise what jerks some men are. Ibo, I think the reason you aren't getting girls is because you haven't applied yourself to the pursuit of them. We play hard to get and we like men who know how to get what they want. Case in Point:Last week, I'd just walked out of the subway when a man came up to me.Him: Hi, are you from around here?Me: Er, no I'm not. [Keep walking]Him: I wanted to ask you–Me: Sorry, I don't know the area. There's a map over there. [Point behind him and look down at my phone.]Him: [Stops in front of me] No, I wanted to ask you if you want to get a drink?I was impressed that he had asserted himself despite me snubbing him twice (haha), so after checking the time on my phone and replying to a text, I smiled and said, 'Yes, sure. Where would you like to go?'And this has been the case with every guy I've dated. I will turn them down again and again (just out of habit, it's not even personal). It's the guys who are confident and know what they want who get what they want.I also happen to know some guys, who I assume are like you. They have great bodies, they're intelligent and interesting, but they're single because they're too shy to make a move. I see them as 'nice guys'.My Thought Process for Nice Guys:Yeah, he's hot. Yes, there are lots of interesting things for us to talk about, and we enjoy hanging out. Yes, he hints that he likes me and asks me out to places. But, he's not confident enough to say what he wants (big turn off), so I'll keep him as a friend who I can hang out with when I want to.And just in case you're wondering . . .My Thought Process for Bad Boys:Oh...he's a bad boy. Note to Self: Avoid like the plague.
Febreeze = Clean Sheets ;D
Also if you take a shower before bed (like what I always do) do you need to wash your sheets every week?
Actually yeah, you really should. The average bed has between 100k-10m dust mites and they can impact your immune system and make you hyperallergenic, sometimes resulting in asthma. Not really worth it. You can get away with every couple of weeks but why not just buy a couple sets of nice 100% Egyptian cotton bed sheets (aim for a thread count 600-800+) and change them every week, alternating between sets.If not for yourself, think of the ladies 🙂 Seriously though, I invested in the best memory foam mattress, pillows and sheets I could afford. Best purchase I ever made.
I totally agree! Luckily for me I always seem to have dated clean freaks, to the point that until encountering this post I was under the delusion that men really like having clean sheets. Ha. I had actually rationalised that men might be more inclined to change their sheets more often because it was easier for them to lift up big heavy mattresses. However, now I see my hypothesis is absolutely flawed.
The inclination of men changing their bed sheets is linked exponentially to the probability of a naked girl being present in said bed. I think it is the first rule of hygienebednamics 🙂 Being a clean freak is no good though, the body needs some contact with pathogens to keep it on its toes! Sent from my GT-I9300 using Tapatalk 2
Exactly, the probability of a naked girl being in my bed is zero :(. Therefore the probability of me having clean sheets is zero
Looking at your profile pic I find that a little hard to believe but if you are serious check out a book called 'The Game' by Neil Strauss. Read it with a pinch of salt but it seriously changed the way I interacted with women. I have always been very selective with my partners but this took it to a different level. This book focuses on the 'how to get laid' element of meeting women, but in reality there is a much better and more potent message to the book which I won't ruin. You may also find that you stop being attracted to 'girls' and start seeing more 'women' - the difference I define in attitude, not physically or in years.If you find meeting women difficult/scary/rare then I would recommend this book. Don't live by it, just take what is useful to you and remember to ALWAYS treat women with the respect they deserve.I am not kidding when I say this but I met my long-term partner, who competed at national level for Swimming and missed the cut for the Olympics by 0.3 seconds when I weighed 19 stone and 40% BF. Her exact words to me during our first weekend together were "I never thought I would date someone 'like you' but now I realise that doesn't even matter". Considering the effort you put into looking after your health, this will be a doddle. PM me if you have any questions. I got quite into PUA a while back and it was fun, but I was never bothered about scoring numbers, the chase was far far more fun for me.
Haha I no problem talking to girls. I just have no social life. This is my choice due to the several things I am involved in with my career and training for powerlifting. Admit-tingly I do get lonely sometimes, but its something that comes with territory. I just have to find someone with a similar lifestyle. I really can't just stay up to 3 am drinking every night, nor do I have the desire to, but that seems to be all everyone my age wants to do.
Russi, books with titles like that make my blood boil. I think it's really important for women to read them to realise what jerks some men are. Ibo, I think the reason you aren't getting girls is because you haven't applied yourself to the pursuit of them. We play hard to get and we like men who know how to get what they want. Case in Point:Last week, I'd just walked out of the subway when a man came up to me.Him: Hi, are you from around here?Me: Er, no I'm not. [Keep walking]Him: I wanted to ask you–Me: Sorry, I don't know the area. There's a map over there. [Point behind him and look down at my phone.]Him: [Stops in front of me] No, I wanted to ask you if you want to get a drink?I was impressed that he had asserted himself despite me snubbing him twice (haha), so after checking the time on my phone and replying to a text, I smiled and said, 'Yes, sure. Where would you like to go?'And this has been the case with every guy I've dated. I will turn them down again and again (just out of habit, it's not even personal). It's the guys who are confident and know what they want who get what they want.I also happen to know some guys, who I assume are like you. They have great bodies, they're intelligent and interesting, but they're single because they're too shy to make a move. I see them as 'nice guys'.My Thought Process for Nice Guys:Yeah, he's hot. Yes, there are lots of interesting things for us to talk about, and we enjoy hanging out. Yes, he hints that he likes me and asks me out to places. But, he's not confident enough to say what he wants (big turn off), so I'll keep him as a friend who I can hang out with when I want to.And just in case you're wondering . . .My Thought Process for Bad Boys:Oh...he's a bad boy. Note to Self: Avoid like the plague.
I agree Fairy, I would actively encourage girls to read this book and in fact have given a couple of my girly friends copies. There is a women's version as well called "Rules of the Game". I found it hilarious but principally it is very weak and for that reason don't really think you should take such things personally, they are written to sell, after all. Ibob - bars are the last place you will meet a decent girl anyway mate so I'm sure you have plenty of interests that would satisfy your own personal goals where you could meet women. My original point, which is worth putting succinctly here is this - women are everywhere - coffee shops, museums, banks, airports - everywhere! Getting a conversation started can be hard, but I don't believe anyone has a schedule that dictates they never meet women.
Russi, books with titles like that make my blood boil. I think it's really important for women to read them to realise what jerks some men are. Ibo, I think the reason you aren't getting girls is because you haven't applied yourself to the pursuit of them. We play hard to get and we like men who know how to get what they want. Case in Point:Last week, I'd just walked out of the subway when a man came up to me.Him: Hi, are you from around here?Me: Er, no I'm not. [Keep walking]Him: I wanted to ask you–Me: Sorry, I don't know the area. There's a map over there. [Point behind him and look down at my phone.]Him: [Stops in front of me] No, I wanted to ask you if you want to get a drink?I was impressed that he had asserted himself despite me snubbing him twice (haha), so after checking the time on my phone and replying to a text, I smiled and said, 'Yes, sure. Where would you like to go?'And this has been the case with every guy I've dated. I will turn them down again and again (just out of habit, it's not even personal). It's the guys who are confident and know what they want who get what they want.I also happen to know some guys, who I assume are like you. They have great bodies, they're intelligent and interesting, but they're single because they're too shy to make a move. I see them as 'nice guys'.My Thought Process for Nice Guys:Yeah, he's hot. Yes, there are lots of interesting things for us to talk about, and we enjoy hanging out. Yes, he hints that he likes me and asks me out to places. But, he's not confident enough to say what he wants (big turn off), so I'll keep him as a friend who I can hang out with when I want to.And just in case you're wondering . . .My Thought Process for Bad Boys:Oh...he's a bad boy. Note to Self: Avoid like the plague.
I agree Fairy, I would actively encourage girls to read this book and in fact have given a couple of my girly friends copies. There is a women's version as well called "Rules of the Game". I found it hilarious but principally it is very weak and for that reason don't really think you should take such things personally, they are written to sell, after all. Ibob - bars are the last place you will meet a decent girl anyway mate so I'm sure you have plenty of interests that would satisfy your own personal goals where you could meet women. My original point, which is worth putting succinctly here is this - women are everywhere - coffee shops, museums, banks, airports - everywhere! Getting a conversation started can be hard, but I don't believe anyone has a schedule that dictates they never meet women.
Yea you got a point. I always thought it weird to talk to someone in an environment like a grocery store, it just seems creepy to me haha. The thing is with me is that I hate small talk, with anyone women or men, so I am not very good at it. I am so disconnected from society I don't even know what normal people talk about.
Haha I no problem talking to girls. I just have no social life. This is my choice due to the several things I am involved in with my career and training for powerlifting. Admit-tingly I do get lonely sometimes, but its something that comes with territory. I just have to find someone with a similar lifestyle. I really can't just stay up to 3 am drinking every night, nor do I have the desire to, but that seems to be all everyone my age wants to do.
That is exactly my stance on training and the so called "social-life" people say I don't have. Where I live going out on the weekends and getting hammered is the norm, so I look like the outcast. People who are serious about completely controlling their body are more likely to completely be in control of their life (which I assume you are). Training and being healthy has been my main goal for the past 10 years of my life but a few years ago I wanted to find someone to settle down with. Instead of "letting it happen" I made it a goal just like any other goal. Tried hanging out at the bar scene (didn't drink) and found that anyone I met there was not looking for what i was looking for. Next thing I tried was match.com. In today's day and age this made perfect sense and you are that much ahead of the game to see if you are compatible. Sure I had some "not so good dates" but after a few months I met someone who fit me perfectly and married her. I find it funny how a lot of people are waiting for that "person" to fall right into their lap on random chance. That is like saying you just want a random 500lb squat to happen in my mind. Ibo seems like the type of person who knows how to create priorities, set goals, and achieve them. He understands certain areas have to be sacrificed if you are pursuing others, this is just life.This is just a long winded way of saying I understand where Ibo is coming from.
Haha I no problem talking to girls. I just have no social life. This is my choice due to the several things I am involved in with my career and training for powerlifting. Admit-tingly I do get lonely sometimes, but its something that comes with territory. I just have to find someone with a similar lifestyle. I really can't just stay up to 3 am drinking every night, nor do I have the desire to, but that seems to be all everyone my age wants to do.
That is exactly my stance on training and the so called "social-life" people say I don't have. Where I live going out on the weekends and getting hammered is the norm, so I look like the outcast. People who are serious about completely controlling their body are more likely to completely be in control of their life (which I assume you are). Training and being healthy has been my main goal for the past 10 years of my life but a few years ago I wanted to find someone to settle down with. Instead of "letting it happen" I made it a goal just like any other goal. Tried hanging out at the bar scene (didn't drink) and found that anyone I met there was not looking for what i was looking for. Next thing I tried was match.com. In today's day and age this made perfect sense and you are that much ahead of the game to see if you are compatible. Sure I had some "not so good dates" but after a few months I met someone who fit me perfectly and married her. I find it funny how a lot of people are waiting for that "person" to fall right into their lap on random chance. That is like saying you just want a random 500lb squat to happen in my mind. Ibo seems like the type of person who knows how to create priorities, set goals, and achieve them. He understands certain areas have to be sacrificed if you are pursuing others, this is just life.This is just a long winded way of saying I understand where Ibo is coming from.
You totally get me Tanner. If all I cared about was scoring with girls I would have done that by now. I have had several girls approach me, so the problem is that I can't "get girls". In retrospect I wish I would have taken some of them up on their offer, but at the time I was soooo hung up on this girl I liked and I just wouldn't accept the fact she wasn't into me. As a result, I ignored everyone else.I do understand I have to go get what I want. I have taken the initiative, over the past few months I am being more sociable and talking to everyone more, both women and men. I will admit my biggest personality flaw is that I make it very difficult to be friends with me, people even tell me I look mean.
Haha I no problem talking to girls. I just have no social life. This is my choice due to the several things I am involved in with my career and training for powerlifting. Admit-tingly I do get lonely sometimes, but its something that comes with territory. I just have to find someone with a similar lifestyle. I really can't just stay up to 3 am drinking every night, nor do I have the desire to, but that seems to be all everyone my age wants to do.
That is exactly my stance on training and the so called "social-life" people say I don't have. Where I live going out on the weekends and getting hammered is the norm, so I look like the outcast. People who are serious about completely controlling their body are more likely to completely be in control of their life (which I assume you are). Training and being healthy has been my main goal for the past 10 years of my life but a few years ago I wanted to find someone to settle down with. Instead of "letting it happen" I made it a goal just like any other goal. Tried hanging out at the bar scene (didn't drink) and found that anyone I met there was not looking for what i was looking for. Next thing I tried was match.com. In today's day and age this made perfect sense and you are that much ahead of the game to see if you are compatible. Sure I had some "not so good dates" but after a few months I met someone who fit me perfectly and married her. I find it funny how a lot of people are waiting for that "person" to fall right into their lap on random chance. That is like saying you just want a random 500lb squat to happen in my mind. Ibo seems like the type of person who knows how to create priorities, set goals, and achieve them. He understands certain areas have to be sacrificed if you are pursuing others, this is just life.This is just a long winded way of saying I understand where Ibo is coming from.
You totally get me Tanner. If all I cared about was scoring with girls I would have done that by now. I have had several girls approach me, so the problem is that I can't "get girls". In retrospect I wish I would have taken some of them up on their offer, but at the time I was soooo hung up on this girl I liked and I just wouldn't accept the fact she wasn't into me. As a result, I ignored everyone else.I do understand I have to go get what I want. I have taken the initiative, over the past few months I am being more sociable and talking to everyone more, both women and men. I will admit my biggest personality flaw is that I make it very difficult to be friends with me, people even tell me I look mean.
Wait, back up a second, there is a world of difference between 'getting girls' and succeeding in a relationship with a woman. Those two things are not the same - Tanner wanted a relationship, so first off you need to work out if you want a girl in your bed (which was what we were talking about initially) or if you are tired of being alone. Sex will not cure your loneliness, except for two or three hours I guess.So we've gone from brain drain to clean sheets to meeting girls. Nice.I would definitely recommend you read this book Ibob - you will laugh at yourself when you read back your last post afterwards 😉
Haha I no problem talking to girls. I just have no social life. This is my choice due to the several things I am involved in with my career and training for powerlifting. Admit-tingly I do get lonely sometimes, but its something that comes with territory. I just have to find someone with a similar lifestyle. I really can't just stay up to 3 am drinking every night, nor do I have the desire to, but that seems to be all everyone my age wants to do.
That is exactly my stance on training and the so called "social-life" people say I don't have. Where I live going out on the weekends and getting hammered is the norm, so I look like the outcast. People who are serious about completely controlling their body are more likely to completely be in control of their life (which I assume you are). Training and being healthy has been my main goal for the past 10 years of my life but a few years ago I wanted to find someone to settle down with. Instead of "letting it happen" I made it a goal just like any other goal. Tried hanging out at the bar scene (didn't drink) and found that anyone I met there was not looking for what i was looking for. Next thing I tried was match.com. In today's day and age this made perfect sense and you are that much ahead of the game to see if you are compatible. Sure I had some "not so good dates" but after a few months I met someone who fit me perfectly and married her. I find it funny how a lot of people are waiting for that "person" to fall right into their lap on random chance. That is like saying you just want a random 500lb squat to happen in my mind. Ibo seems like the type of person who knows how to create priorities, set goals, and achieve them. He understands certain areas have to be sacrificed if you are pursuing others, this is just life.This is just a long winded way of saying I understand where Ibo is coming from.
You totally get me Tanner. If all I cared about was scoring with girls I would have done that by now. I have had several girls approach me, so the problem is that I can't "get girls". In retrospect I wish I would have taken some of them up on their offer, but at the time I was soooo hung up on this girl I liked and I just wouldn't accept the fact she wasn't into me. As a result, I ignored everyone else.I do understand I have to go get what I want. I have taken the initiative, over the past few months I am being more sociable and talking to everyone more, both women and men. I will admit my biggest personality flaw is that I make it very difficult to be friends with me, people even tell me I look mean.
Wait, back up a second, there is a world of difference between 'getting girls' and succeeding in a relationship with a woman. Those two things are not the same - Tanner wanted a relationship, so first off you need to work out if you want a girl in your bed (which was what we were talking about initially) or if you are tired of being alone. Sex will not cure your loneliness, except for two or three hours I guess.So we've gone from brain drain to clean sheets to meeting girls. Nice.I would definitely recommend you read this book Ibob - you will laugh at yourself when you read back your last post afterwards 😉
When I said scoring I meant just simply having a girlfriend for the sake of having one, not necessarily sex. Also I never said anything about working out for girls, I do not do that at all. I don't even train for aesthetics anymore. Trust me, I am not a normal person and the type of girl I am looking for is rare.
Haha I no problem talking to girls. I just have no social life. This is my choice due to the several things I am involved in with my career and training for powerlifting. Admit-tingly I do get lonely sometimes, but its something that comes with territory. I just have to find someone with a similar lifestyle. I really can't just stay up to 3 am drinking every night, nor do I have the desire to, but that seems to be all everyone my age wants to do.
That is exactly my stance on training and the so called "social-life" people say I don't have. Where I live going out on the weekends and getting hammered is the norm, so I look like the outcast. People who are serious about completely controlling their body are more likely to completely be in control of their life (which I assume you are). Training and being healthy has been my main goal for the past 10 years of my life but a few years ago I wanted to find someone to settle down with. Instead of "letting it happen" I made it a goal just like any other goal. Tried hanging out at the bar scene (didn't drink) and found that anyone I met there was not looking for what i was looking for. Next thing I tried was match.com. In today's day and age this made perfect sense and you are that much ahead of the game to see if you are compatible. Sure I had some "not so good dates" but after a few months I met someone who fit me perfectly and married her. I find it funny how a lot of people are waiting for that "person" to fall right into their lap on random chance. That is like saying you just want a random 500lb squat to happen in my mind. Ibo seems like the type of person who knows how to create priorities, set goals, and achieve them. He understands certain areas have to be sacrificed if you are pursuing others, this is just life.This is just a long winded way of saying I understand where Ibo is coming from.
You totally get me Tanner. If all I cared about was scoring with girls I would have done that by now. I have had several girls approach me, so the problem is that I can't "get girls". In retrospect I wish I would have taken some of them up on their offer, but at the time I was soooo hung up on this girl I liked and I just wouldn't accept the fact she wasn't into me. As a result, I ignored everyone else.I do understand I have to go get what I want. I have taken the initiative, over the past few months I am being more sociable and talking to everyone more, both women and men. I will admit my biggest personality flaw is that I make it very difficult to be friends with me, people even tell me I look mean.
Wait, back up a second, there is a world of difference between 'getting girls' and succeeding in a relationship with a woman. Those two things are not the same - Tanner wanted a relationship, so first off you need to work out if you want a girl in your bed (which was what we were talking about initially) or if you are tired of being alone. Sex will not cure your loneliness, except for two or three hours I guess.So we've gone from brain drain to clean sheets to meeting girls. Nice.I would definitely recommend you read this book Ibob - you will laugh at yourself when you read back your last post afterwards 😉
When I said scoring I meant just simply having a girlfriend for the sake of having one, not necessarily sex. Also I never said anything about working out for girls, I do not do that at all. I don't even train for aesthetics anymore. Trust me, I am not a normal person and the type of girl I am looking for is rare.
I meant 'work out' like, in your mind you need to decide what you want, not 'working out' like get ripped because that's what women want. Damn, I'm a big dude and seriously, it means shit (it helps granted but attraction is not a choice).If the woman you are looking for is rare then maybe try match.com or it just comes down to numbers (meeting as many women as possible until you find the right one). Time. Practice. Patience. Good luck mate.
Haha I no problem talking to girls. I just have no social life. This is my choice due to the several things I am involved in with my career and training for powerlifting. Admit-tingly I do get lonely sometimes, but its something that comes with territory. I just have to find someone with a similar lifestyle. I really can't just stay up to 3 am drinking every night, nor do I have the desire to, but that seems to be all everyone my age wants to do.
That is exactly my stance on training and the so called "social-life" people say I don't have. Where I live going out on the weekends and getting hammered is the norm, so I look like the outcast. People who are serious about completely controlling their body are more likely to completely be in control of their life (which I assume you are). Training and being healthy has been my main goal for the past 10 years of my life but a few years ago I wanted to find someone to settle down with. Instead of "letting it happen" I made it a goal just like any other goal. Tried hanging out at the bar scene (didn't drink) and found that anyone I met there was not looking for what i was looking for. Next thing I tried was match.com. In today's day and age this made perfect sense and you are that much ahead of the game to see if you are compatible. Sure I had some "not so good dates" but after a few months I met someone who fit me perfectly and married her. I find it funny how a lot of people are waiting for that "person" to fall right into their lap on random chance. That is like saying you just want a random 500lb squat to happen in my mind. Ibo seems like the type of person who knows how to create priorities, set goals, and achieve them. He understands certain areas have to be sacrificed if you are pursuing others, this is just life.This is just a long winded way of saying I understand where Ibo is coming from.
You totally get me Tanner. If all I cared about was scoring with girls I would have done that by now. I have had several girls approach me, so the problem is that I can't "get girls". In retrospect I wish I would have taken some of them up on their offer, but at the time I was soooo hung up on this girl I liked and I just wouldn't accept the fact she wasn't into me. As a result, I ignored everyone else.I do understand I have to go get what I want. I have taken the initiative, over the past few months I am being more sociable and talking to everyone more, both women and men. I will admit my biggest personality flaw is that I make it very difficult to be friends with me, people even tell me I look mean.
Wait, back up a second, there is a world of difference between 'getting girls' and succeeding in a relationship with a woman. Those two things are not the same - Tanner wanted a relationship, so first off you need to work out if you want a girl in your bed (which was what we were talking about initially) or if you are tired of being alone. Sex will not cure your loneliness, except for two or three hours I guess.So we've gone from brain drain to clean sheets to meeting girls. Nice.I would definitely recommend you read this book Ibob - you will laugh at yourself when you read back your last post afterwards 😉
When I said scoring I meant just simply having a girlfriend for the sake of having one, not necessarily sex. Also I never said anything about working out for girls, I do not do that at all. I don't even train for aesthetics anymore. Trust me, I am not a normal person and the type of girl I am looking for is rare.
I meant 'work out' like, in your mind you need to decide what you want, not 'working out' like get ripped because that's what women want. Damn, I'm a big dude and seriously, it means shit (it helps granted but attraction is not a choice).If the woman you are looking for is rare then maybe try match.com or it just comes down to numbers (meeting as many women as possible until you find the right one). Time. Practice. Patience. Good luck mate.
I am currently working on it. It's tough, but nothing good comes easy.
Bob, I am sure you've been approached. Most guys are at some point or time, but a lot of guys don't notice, or chalk it up to something else (like a girl just being nice). Happens to me ALL the time, especially if I am in tank top (warmer weather). I am not just talking desperate women either, but really attractive, seemingly nice types. However, if they smoke... I lose all interest, if I had any.Sure, you gotta do the bulk of the approaching, but if you carry yourself confidently (sort of cocky), it helps. Also, a non-freaky muscular physique DOES help.Hell, I get girls coming on to me in my apartment building, and various places I go (where I am NOT looking to socialize). Fuck, even girls WITH boyfriends! Had one do it last night, while I was heading out for an obligation. She was all talking me up and shit, hitting on me, complimenting my hair, eyes, etc. She acted as thought I should remember who she is (she is from my building)... but honestly, I couldn't recall her or ever meeting her. Wasn't bad looking, seemed nice, but I was busy (and nearly late). I was polite.That is my big issue, I won't do one night stands, I won't "play" or use someone, I won't fuck around, I like meaning / purpose in what I do. So, I want someone to invest myself into.There lies the root problem: most women CANNOT fucking stand my passionate pursuits and dedication... lifting, dieting, music, etc. I am unapologetic with my pursuits.I've had girls ask me to stop working out, or severely limit it, before. I refuse to do that. Thing is, I devoted plenty of time to them, they just wanted more and more. Fair enough, and I appreciate them wanting to be with me, but I won't give up on what I do either.It always starts out 'hot', but that's the issue w/ dating more "everyday" women... they eventually tire of my attitude b/c they, ultimately, cannot relate. That's fine. I'd rather someone love me for me, want to be with me b/c I compliment them, otherwise I am better off alone. I don't need another person to define me, not when a sig. other is meant to COMPLIMENT you. I am my own person, she should be her own... we just meet in the middle (so-to-speak).I am very picky in that regard, and therefore look for VERY particular kind of girl. A girl who is driven like me, intelligent, no drugs, no smoking, limited or no alcohol consumption. A girl who doesn't LIVE to party. Someone interesting, someone I can communicate with beyond the superficial. Someone who can fucking read beyond a 10 year old level. The list is quite long, but hardly unreasonable.Never sink your standards!Cory
Bob, I am sure you've been approached. Most guys are at some point or time, but a lot of guys don't notice, or chalk it up to something else (like a girl just being nice). Happens to me ALL the time, especially if I am in tank top (warmer weather). I am not just talking desperate women either, but really attractive, seemingly nice types. However, if they smoke... I lose all interest, if I had any.Sure, you gotta do the bulk of the approaching, but if you carry yourself confidently (sort of cocky), it helps. Also, a non-freaky muscular physique DOES help.Hell, I get girls coming on to me in my apartment building, and various places I go (where I am NOT looking to socialize). Fuck, even girls WITH boyfriends! Had one do it last night, while I was heading out for an obligation. She was all talking me up and shit, hitting on me, complimenting my hair, eyes, etc. She acted as thought I should remember who she is (she is from my building)... but honestly, I couldn't recall her or ever meeting her. Wasn't bad looking, seemed nice, but I was busy (and nearly late). I was polite.That is my big issue, I won't do one night stands, I won't "play" or use someone, I won't fuck around, I like meaning / purpose in what I do. So, I want someone to invest myself into.There lies the root problem: most women CANNOT fucking stand my passionate pursuits and dedication... lifting, dieting, music, etc. I am unapologetic with my pursuits.I've had girls ask me to stop working out, or severely limit it, before. I refuse to do that. Thing is, I devoted plenty of time to them, they just wanted more and more. Fair enough, and I appreciate them wanting to be with me, but I won't give up on what I do either.It always starts out 'hot', but that's the issue w/ dating more "everyday" women... they eventually tire of my attitude b/c they, ultimately, cannot relate. That's fine. I'd rather someone love me for me, want to be with me b/c I compliment them, otherwise I am better off alone. I don't need another person to define me, not when a sig. other is meant to COMPLIMENT you. I am my own person, she should be her own... we just meet in the middle (so-to-speak).I am very picky in that regard, and therefore look for VERY particular kind of girl. A girl who is driven like me, intelligent, no drugs, no smoking, limited or no alcohol consumption. A girl who doesn't LIVE to party. Someone interesting, someone I can communicate with beyond the superficial. Someone who can fucking read beyond a 10 year old level. The list is quite long, but hardly unreasonable.Never sink your standards!Cory
If you find anyone ask if they have a sister lol. I think I am gonna give people more of a chance though in the future. Over the past few years there has been five girls that wanted to do date me, but I told them all no. You never know what will happen.
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